August 14

 Growing up as a girl in a Hispanic household as the eldest made me realize that a lot of expectations are placed upon the female gender in a lot of different cultures. When I was a kid I would always see the difference in how the women and men were treated in my family, not even the treatment they'd receive from their own family members but even from other non biological males. Generation to generation many of my own friends family's and even my own I'd see women constantly  be treated as someone who's assigned to tend to the kids, tend to the home, tend to their work, and even tend to their own needs. Seeing this kind of pattern being passed down never sat right in my stomach the idea of women having to carry the emotional and physical baggage of a family changed who they are and what they become. That's what makes me as people would call "rebellious" when it comes to the "Trad-wife" or "Normal women" stereotype. I simply won't and can't see myself becoming that. For example, my mother is known as the hard worker of the family, she came to the U.S by herself at the ripe age of 17 to build herself a better life. Even with that amount of pressure being put upon her she found herself always getting pressured by her family to do better and eventually pressured to do better by her partners. Seeing the toll it can take on a mother really pushes me away from trying to work on myself for others especially to make myself look "good enough" to the male gender. Trying to make a working family shouldn't feel as if it's a sacrifice of your own mentality. Which is why I'm so driven to focus on myself and my own opinions before letting the opposite gender influence me in what should be the norm.